Holding space is not as easy as it sounds.
I published some days ago on my Instagram about these hard days holding space for my actual partner while she's not able to regulate her emotions and I observe reactions like fireworks exploding in front of me.
In past relationships, I used to run away from this expressing verbally something similar to "This is just drama" and never realizing that I didn't need to react. In this new relationship, I have much more awareness about all this, but it's still really hard not to respond. Late, but I react in a certain way.
My mind goes on analyzing almost everything, and of course, clings to zodiacal archetypes to gain more security, like I'm a Scorpio, I analyze everything.
I have my own theories, and I cling to this, because, in the end, awareness comes from understanding, right? If I'm not right, please, feel free to help me to understand this with your comment below.
My theory goes is based on the most common way of how feelings are created in our body: there's an existing thought that we accept as a truth, it becomes a feeling and then if we don't regulate it, it becomes an action. So, basically, we are creating energetic spaces for the rest of the people around us, based on the thoughts that we decide (if aware) to embody. I don't vibrate with these people advising to "feel everything". From the perspective of feeling, what is already there, yes. But if you can go on filtering the stories that your mind creates to protect you, believe me, you will destroy fewer relationships.
Where is the balance between explosion and repression? I prefer to question and not play to the guru.
Respect is being aware, and conscious that you are manifesting with the energy that you create around you. Any action is needed. So, any relationship advisor is needed if you don't understand the basic concept of choosing your vibration.
I call my friends for the next lines.
Holding space is beautiful, the feminine expression holds so much beauty in terms of love, self-care, and creativity. I'm an admirer of the feminine. Who holds space for the masculine? Another masculine? I mean who holds space for a healthier masculine? This is a concern to me in the last few days. of course, I have so many conscious friends around, but I mean this: let's play fair. Holding space for the feminine is not about facing all those non-filtered thoughts and explosiveness. What about our feelings? what about our chosen energetic field? Of course, I'm writing here about a couple who decide to live together. If we insert the word "flow" here, everything is easier.
Living in the flow is just easier. Been there, done that. I can recognize my own shot, but I cannot share it with my partner because it creates bigger emotions in her and the city is burning in 2 minutes without allowing me to finish expressing myself. Is it a commitment to growth or is this a holding space for addiction to feelings? I'm not requesting happiness in a relationship, I'm requesting respect. With respect to the chosen vibration, I've built that attracted her in the beginning.
Do you surrender to the feminine flow? No, yes, I don't know. I'm masculine diving into the feminine.
This post is more a question than an answer. Maybe I found finally who is that one who holds space for me. It's the other me.